Comments for The Singular Parent

Comment on vengeful exes by Lao Qiao

Lao Qiao — Thu, 22 Mar 2012 03:22:16 +0000

Maybe things are different nowadays, but when I got married, I never had heard of considering what a divorce with one’s spouse-to-be would be like as a factor in making one’s decision.

Comment on sleep training and independence by Lao Qiao

Lao Qiao — Sun, 18 Mar 2012 18:20:07 +0000

It is interesting that Dr. Spock, who is viewed as someone who advocated indulging children, advised parents to let their children cry themselves to sleep. He later modified this view.

Comment on what is parent coaching by Perry J Greenbaum

Perry J Greenbaum — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 15:46:46 +0000

I agree with what you said regarding over-reliance on parenting books and other assorted media. It can actually make matters worse. As a parent of three children, I agree that there is more than one way. Children are unique individuals and this is apparent at an early age.

Comment on what is parent coaching by Lao Qiao

Lao Qiao — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 02:44:20 +0000

Choosing music from Schumann’s SCENES FROM CHILDHOOD is quite consistent with what you said. The variety of themes we find in this collection of pieces shows how different children can be from each other. We each have our own style.

Comment on how to get kids to listen by thesingularparent

thesingularparent — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 12:30:08 +0000

It’s possible. At that point it’s fine to be more directive. It sounds more like something an adolescent might say, and I was talking about younger children. I might answer “Mm hmm” with, “So what do you need to do?” “So put them away” could be a challenge or genuine confusion. I might say, “well, they’re yoru toys. Do you want to put them away by yourself, or do you want me to help?” or, “OK, but you know if I have to put them away they don’t come out again for a week.”

Most children do understand “The toys need to be put away.” Those who would challenge it would be just as likely to challenge “You need to put your toys away.”

Comment on how to get kids to listen by Lao Qiao

Lao Qiao — Fri, 04 Nov 2011 00:52:04 +0000

I would think that the statement “The toys need to be put away” would be answered with “Mm hmm” or “So put them away.”

Comment on Dr. Russel Barkley on ADHD by Mark Hartley

Mark Hartley — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 22:48:53 +0000

Watching Dr Barkley’s comments on this site have been extremely helpful, I am a septugenerian with ADHD, currently writing a memoir, Dr’s comments on moral judgements and performance vs knowledge,is for me a huge relief. I find myself quetioning my own motivations for writing and talking, seeking help. Am I just a rotten person looking for an excuse or am I sick, for many years I blamed my behavioral problems on alcohol, my parents divorce, and how badly I was ostricized as a child. life has been an absolute struggle for me. By taking on this project of writing a memoir, I have had to dig for info about this neuro genetic disorder, if and when I accomplish writing my book Dr, Barkley will recieve a signed autographed copy. I was buying into the laser focus thing until I found myself re-writing parts of the book I had already written. I am pretty good at setting goals, in order to finish this book I have to look at it as a means to an end, a tool to accomplish my goals. I like expensive things and I want to leave my two teenage daughters and wife financially secure, yes at age seventy I have two beautiful teenage daughters and a much younger passive wife. Unfortunatly my two daughters have got the family curse, but I am able to help because of the work of people like Dr.Barkley; I am able to stop the denial and start helping others. Once again thank you.

Comment on the Brady Bunch by Lao Qiao

Lao Qiao — Tue, 04 Oct 2011 04:01:18 +0000

When I was in college, I went to visit a friend’s mother and stepfather in the Appalachians. We also visited the stepfather’s stepmother. She was my friend’s step-step-grandmother.

Comment on sex ed with Julia Sweeney by Carol Jochnowitz

Carol Jochnowitz — Mon, 12 Sep 2011 15:19:04 +0000

That’s the only reason anything is ever funny.